Hello Dosto, Aaj main ke book ki summary le kar aaya hu Emotional Intelligence, agar aap apne aap ko samjhtey hai aur dusro ko samjhtey hai toh aap main Emotional Intelligence bahut high hai.

Emotional Intelligence written by Daniel Goleman he is an American author, so Daniel Goleman ki research ke mutaabiq hum main IQ se zyaada EQ hona chiayeh normally kisi particular insaan ki intelligence aur knowledge ko measure karne ke liye hum uska IQ check kartey hai but Daniel Goleman ka kehna hai ki agar hume kisi insaan ki intelligence pata lagaani hai then we should measure his/her Emotional Quotient level.

Is book ke zariye Daniel Goleman bataate hai ki EQ IQ se kaise alag hai aur EQ ka kya conecpt hai. Aur kaafi ways bhi hume bataaye hai iss book main jisse humaara Emotional Quotient level bhada sake.

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What is This Book Explains?


See this books is all about emotions so iss book main hume bataaya gaya hai ki emotions ki kya importance hai, kisi bhi situations main hum kis tahra react kartey hai, hum humaare attitude ko particular situation main kaisa rakhtey hai aur kaise humko emotions ko haavi nahi hone dena chaiyeh.

Humne dekha hai ki kai baar humko humaare emotions help kartey hai lekin jab had se zyaada bhad jaaye toh hume emotions kaafi zyaada hurt kartey hai.

This book gives us practice advice that how can we increase mental strength and emotional intelligence, aur kyoun humaai emotional intelligence ek key ki tahra hai ek successful life ke liye.

What is Emotional Intelligence?


Toh dekhiyeh Emotional Intelligence banta hai 5 cheezo se.


  • 1 - Self Awareness - Kya aap khud ko samjhtey hai?, kya aap khud ko acche tahra se jaantey hai?, kya aap jaantey hai ki aap ka attitude kaisa hai? Agar aap apne aap ko acche se jaantey hai toh aap better decision le paayengey.

  • 2 - Managing Emotions - Kya aap apne emotions ko manage kar paatey hai? Kya aap jab bahut zyaada ghussa ho jaatey hai toh aap apne aap ko shaant rakh paatey hai? Kis tahra se aap setback se deal kar rahe hai aur yeh depend karta hai ki aap kaise apne emotions ko manage kartey hai.

  • 3 - Self Motivation - Kya aap self motivate hai?


  • 4 - Empathy - Kya aap Empathy show kartey hai? Kya aap dusro ke emotions samaj saktey hai?


  • 5 - Handling Relationships - Aap kis tahar apne social skills ke dwaara operate kartey hai.


Toh yeh 5 aspects aapki emotions ko dikhaatey hai aur aap kis tahar apni emotions aur feeling ko manage kartey hai.

2 Separate minds living in our brains - EQ more important than IQ


Jo aapka Emotional Quotient hai woh aapko success dilaane ke liye IQ ki tahra hi kaam karta hai. Daniel Goleman bataate hai ki humaare brain main do mind hai ek hume Rational decision lene main madad karta hai aur dusra jo hai Emotional.

Aur 5 key skills hai jo humaare emotional literacy ko activate karti hai, aur yeh 5 skills hi measure karti hai humaari Emotional Quotient ko.

Your Success is determined by EQ


Daniel Goleman bataate hai ki bahut saare student jinka IQ level bahut high tha woh fail ho gaye apni practical life main. Agar aap bahut hi smart student hai aapka knowledge bahut high hai lekin aap main agar Emotional Intelligence nahi hoga, social skills nahi hogi, aur agar aap apne emotions ko handle nahi kar paate toh aap kabhi bhi successful nahi ban saktey.

Daniel Goleman ki research ke mutaabiq average log kaafi zyaada successful hai aur IQ ka role aapki life main success dilane ke liye sirf 20% hai jab ki 80% role rehta hai Emotional Quotient aapki life main success dilaane ka.

Why Emotional Intelligence Important?


Emotional Intelligence is all about ki aap apne aap ko kitna jaantey hai aur apni feeling ko kaise manage kartey hai yeh aapke Emotional Intelligence ko determined karta hai.

Ek high EQ ek healthier aur successful life jeene ke liye bahut zaroori hai aur aap apna EQ boost kar saktey hai dusro ki body language ko mirroring ker ke aur humesha optimist rahiyeh.

Emotion Intelligence depend karta hai aapki ability per ki aap kitne self aware aur self regulate hai.

Aur do part hai hai Emotional Intelligence ko samjhne ke liye.


  • 1 - Kya aap self aware hai? kya aap apne aap ko acche se smajtey hai? Dekhiyeh khud ko samjhna bahut zyaada zaroori hai aapko aapki feelings ko samjhna bhi bahut zaroori hai.

  • 2 - Jab aapko pata chal gaya apne baare main aap poori tahra se apne aap ko aur apni feelings ko samjhne lage then iske baad aapko inko self regulate karna hoga.


Aapko pata hona chaiyeh ki aapka react kaisa hona chiayeh aur ya phir aapko react karna chaiyeh ya nahi.

Daniel Goleman ek example detey hai ki aap ek office main bethey huey hai aur suddenly aapko ek dhamaake ki awaaz sunaai deti hai toh aapka emotional process isse threat ki tahra lega aur ek alert mode per chala jaayga, lekin aapka rational brain double check karega aur dekhega ki kuch nahi hua, toh woh aapko automatically calm down karega. Toh yaha per aap apne behavior ko regulate karne ki koshish kijyeh.

The Ventilation Fallacy:


Jab hum bahut zyaada dukhi hotey hai aur phir jab hum humaare dukho ke baare main dusro ko bataate hai toh woh cheez sahi hai, lekin jab hum ghussa hotey hai aur yeh ghussa hum dusro ke saath share kartey hai toh yeh galat hai kyoun ki aap apne anger ko prolong kar rahe hai matlab agar aap yeh baat kisi aur insaan kp bataayengey toh yeh aapko aur zyaada ghussa dilaayega.

Toh jab bhi aap ghussa hai toh apne aapko distract kar lijye dusri kisi activity main koi zaroorat nahi hai kisi ko bhi iske baare main bataane ki.

How to Better Your Emotional Quotient


  • Toh sab se pehley toh apne aap ko chotey chotey task dijye jisse aapka mind distract rahe aur productively engage rahe.

  • Aap Aerobic exercises kariyeh kyoun ki yeh aapke dimag se anger aur stress ko door karta hai.

  • Aapki jo situation ho usse re-frame karne ki koshish kijyeh  For Example agar aapka kisi ke sath jhagda ho gaya toh uss insaan ko bhala bura kehne ki bajaay aap apne aap se yeh kahiyeh ki ho sakta hai ki uss insaan ka aaj din accha na ho, ho sakta hai ki uss insaan ke saath koi bahut badi problem hui hogi jiske wajah se yeh iss thara behave kar raha hai.

  • Apne thoughts ko re-frame kijyeh For Example agar aapke dimag main koi bura khayaal aa raha hai toh usse likhye aur re-frame kijyeh.

  • Anger thoughts main kabhi bhi engage na rahiyeh yeh aapki energy ko reduce karega.

  • Deep breaths lijyeh aur dusro ki madad kijyeh.

Toh yeh saare tarike they humaare Emotional Quotient ko better karne ke liye.

Aur aapki life main koi aise situation jisse aap aaj bhi kaafi dukhi hai uske baare main zyaada sochye mat apne aap ko distract kar lijyeh.

Kabhi bhi apni thinking ko continue mat kijyeh apne negative thoughts ko lekar. Apne aapko distract kar lijyeh ek negative thoughts aur sad thinking se aur best distraction aapko madad karta hai apne mood ko shift karne main jaise ki aapne koi book padh li ya phir koi movie dekh li toh yeh kuch tarike hai jisse aap apne aap ko distract kar saktey hai.

Agar aapke pass zyaada EQ hai toh aap zyaada successful aur healthy hai. IQ sirf aapka Intelligence aur knowledge ko measure karta hai aur hum sochtey hai ki IQ bahut bada role play karta hai humaare success ke liye lekin hume yaad rakhna hai IQ se zyaada EQ matter karta hai success ke liye.

High EQ people are prepared to face social situations


High EQ people already prepared hotey hai social situations ko face karne ke liye, business, career aur students inn saari life main jinke paas EQ zyaada hoga woh successful hoga life main. For Example agar koi bore ho raha hai lekin phir bhi woh apne kaam ko continue kar raha kyoun ki uska EQ high hai iska matlab yeh hua ki woh apne aapko self regulate karne ki koshish kar raha hai woh self regulate kar raha hai apni feelings ko aur woh better perform kar paayga social situations main.

The Famous Marshmallow Experiment !!


Yeh Marshmallow Experiment main Daniel Goleman hume bataate hai ki ek insaan nursery ke school ke baccho ko bataata hai ki agar aap abhi ek ek candy letey hai toh main aapko ek candy dunga lekin agar aap 1 hour baad aatey hai toh main aapko do candy dunga.

Toh iss experiment se pata chala ki jo baccha turant ek candy chaata tha aur apne aap ko rok nahi paa raha tha candy lene se usse zyaada jo baccha 1 hour wait kar ke do candy le jaa raha tha woh aage jaaker life main successful hoga.

Iss experiment se Daniel Goleman bataatna chaa rahe the ki jo baccha apni feelings ko discipline karta hai woh better perform kartey hai apni life main bhi. Toh jab aap ek thara ka delaying gratification le aatey hai aur impulsiveness ko rauk letey hai toh aap success ko paa chuke hai yeh Daniel Goleman ka kehan hai.

Your Health Depends on EQ:


Jitna aap main zyaada EQ hoga utna aap apne aap ko better feel kar paayengey aur jo badi badi diseases hai woh  EQ ki wajah se jaa bhi sakti hai.

You Can Boost Your EQ by Mirroring


Aap boost kar saktey hai apni EQ ko dusro ki body language ko mirror kar ke, For Example agar aap kisi insaan se mil rahe hai aur uss insaan ka posture bahut accha hai unka communication bahut accha hai toh aap unko mirror kar saktey hai matlab usko copy kar saktey hai yeh aapke EQ ko boost karne main kaafi madad karega.

Be Optimistic


Aapko aashavadi rehna chaiyeh jo bhi aashavadi insaan hota hai woh continue try karta rehta hai aur woh apne actions main believe karta hai aur isi liye woh zyaada succeed hotey hai apni life main.

Jo aashavadi log hotey hai woh bad events ko temporary maantey hai aur agar unn bad events per kaam kiya jaaye toh aap apni situation ko definitely improve kar saktey hai.

Aashavadi logo main yeh power hoti hai ki woh bad events ko bhi change kar saktey hai.

The Artful Critique


How to criticize the right way

1 - Be Very Specific
2 - Offer a Solution
3 - Do it Face to Face
4 - Show Empathy

Yaha per Daniel Goleman Artful Critique ke baare main bataate huey kehtey hai ki jo bhi insaan aapko criticize kar raha hai wohi aapka dost hai kyoun ki woh aapko feedback de raha hai aur uss feedback per aap kaam kar saktey hai.

Aur agar aapko dusro ko feedback dena hai toh specific rahiyeh for example samaj lijyeh ki saamne waale insaan ne kaam theek se nahi kiya toh yeh kehna sahi nahi hoga ki "aapne kaam sahi nahi kiya" iske bajaay aap yeh kahiyeh"ki yeh kaam aapne accha kiya lekin yeh aur accha aap ker saktey they agar aapne iss situation ko bhi dekha hota"

Aur humesha Face to Face unko feedback dene ki koshish kijyeh aur ek tahra ki empathy show kijyeh.

Iss book main Daniel Goleman quote ker ke kehtey hai "For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when the emotions hold sway" Matlab jab aapke emotions bich main aa jaate hai toh aapki intelligence kisi kaam ki nahi rehti.

7 Important Things Emotionally Intelligent People Follow:


  • 1 - Emotional people ko jab criticism milta hai ya usse feedback milta hai toh woh usse sikhne ki koshish karta hai aur criticsim ko ek opportunity samjhta hai.

  • 2 - Woh kabhi bhi hich kichaate nahi hai maafi maangney se, woh kaafi zyaada down to earth humble hotey hai aur issi wajah se log unhe zyaada pasand kartey hai.

  • 3 - Woh humesha apne past ko bhool ker aage bhadtey hai woh control kartey hai apni life ke uper aur dusro ko apni life ka control nahi detey hai.

  • 4 - Woh apney commitments ko poora kartey hai, kyoun ki unhe pata hai ki yehi unki reputation ko banaaygi aur yehi trust create karega logo ke bich main.

  • 5 - Yeh empathy show kartey hai baar baar.

  • 6 - Yeh sochtey hai uske baad react kartey hai naaki react kar ke uske baad sochna.

  • 7 - Aur yeh apne failure se sikhtey hai 


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